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Loving God With This Part Of You

The man answered, "'You must love the LORD your God with all your heart, all your soul, all your strength, and all your mind.' And, 'Love your neighbor as yourself.'" Luke 10:27

Saturday was our pilot launch of offering dating preparation workshops to Christian singles and what a fabulous time we had! It truly confirmed that the needs are great and all the issues raised on the day showed that these type of workshops need to be run more often, which I hope to do next year. (You can read the feedback here)

The whole issue of finding a mate, dating or not dating, looking or not looking, waiting or taking action is a mind boggling ball of confusion for many Christian singles. I think one of the main reasons for this is because we don’t get God involved in that part of us. I am not talking about the act of praying for a partner, I am talking about really opening up the heart and allowing God to shed some light on our confusion and make a path for our weary feet.

There are so many biblical principles that God has given to us that apply to our desire for a mate and finding one. Why would He leave us as orphans in this area? God is not neglectful. Let us look at one of them found in the book of Mathew. Jesus gives us the remedy for anxiety and financial stress. He says do not worry about your life, how you will make a living, clothe yourself or find money for food. To not worry does not mean we abdicate personal responsibility to work, gain skills, or ask for support by claiming benefits but we stop doing it all by ourselves and/or relying on the government, stock market or our employer to be there for us. We make God our source and trust Him to provide when we go out to work or when there is a lack of work and He makes sure we have something to gather to meet our needs.

So, in turn we are not to worry about getting a date and finding a partner. Instead we apply the above principle. We trust God as our source to meet our need and provide. This again does not abdicate personal responsibility. We need to step out and gather in what we need for the process of finding a mate.

You are not going to know what gathering that is personally for you if you do not open up to Him and be honest about your frustrations, anger, despair, longings, desires and needs. Why? Because a relationship, which is what you have with God, is built on good communication and only as you talk to Him can you hear His response and what will get you on the path of success.

When God shows up everything changes for He has a way, a plan and an answer to meet your needs in this area. So be encouraged to love Him with this part of you, learn at His feet and you will find a way out of your dating anxieties, confusion and dilemmas.

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Dating - How to Stay on the Right Path

By Joanne Robinson - Copyright Love In Season 2011

Whether you turn to the right or to the left, your ears will hear a voice behind you, saying, "This is the way; walk in it." Isaiah 30:21

I recently watched a talk show host discussing the results of hidden camera footage of a boyfriend confessing that he had never been attracted to the woman he had been dating for the last five years.
It was obviously hurtful for his girlfriend to watch the secret filming and deal with the confusion as to why he stayed when he knew she was not the right one for him. At one point she just looked at him and said ‘why are you wasting my time and opportunity in finding someone that does want to be with me?’

Though this story focused on his infidelity, it also came to light that over the course of their relationship she had many opportunities to see that he was not devoted or wanting the same things in life as she did. So why did they stay together?

So many times, people stay with someone they know deep down inside they have known is wrong for them, some even marry! So, how does it get so far and how can this dilemma be avoided?
The vast majority of women that I have worked with and have been in relationship with the wrong person have dug deep and realised when the first signals started to appear. This is how they describe their feelings.... Their intuition was telling them something was wrong though on the outside everything about hat person seemed rightThey had a bad conscience about going on a dateWarning bells were going off about how he was behaving towards themThrough prayer or reading the word, God had warned them about dating that personThey knew the were not ready to date and went against this self awareness

These inner promptings always start of as little whispers but if we do not address our lack of peace, they will get louder and louder until we are severely disciplined by our boldness to keep moving forward when we lack peace.

It’s easy to get mad at or blame God or wonder if we can truly trust Him to take care of us when we have disappointments behind us. Yet He is more concerned about us being with the right person then we are and He has given us His Holy Spirit to lead us into all truth. We must take ownership of our part in our relationship with the Holy Spirit and listen when He speaks. We must also develop our intuition and trust when something doesn’t feel right. When we explore what that is and don’t ignore it, our honesty will lead us on the right path.

If you have been through a painful break up and afraid to trust again or fear making the same mistakes, listen to God and trust your intuition and the chains of fear will be broken!

Look back on your past relationships and write down when you first felt something was wrong, what was it? How did you respond? What were your reasons for ignoring your inner promptings? What do you need to do differently next time?

Is God speaking to you through a lack of peace or bad conscience now? What do you need to address?

If you woul like personal support, please contact Joanne via her Training & Coaching website at www.donnaintera.com

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