Dating & Relationship Preparation

1 in 3 marriages end in divorce and the most common reasons cited for their breakdown has been contributed to  incompatiblity poor communication inability to resolve conflict  and a difference in goals and relationship expectations.

 Joanne' Story

At the age of 32, after years of broken relationships, I was ready to find out why my relationships kept failing.

Besides being healed from painful past experiences, the other part of my journey was to address my behaviours in relationships.

It was easier for me to deny or withdraw then confront issues that were hurting me. I lost myself when I dated and I didn't have a clear idea of the type of qualities I wanted in a partner.

I believe that God wants marriages that bring honour to Him but it's important we show how much we value being married one day by talking to Him about how we can be ready.

As God has moulded and shaped my character, I have seen a major difference in the quality of relationships I experience with family and friends.

This excites me because I see that He is changing me into the person that can bring something into marriage rather looking at what I can get and hoping it will fix me in some way.

The work God does in dating preparation is not just about marriage. It's about making you like His Son and bringing others to Jesus!

Being single gives us the wonderful opportunity of becoming prepared to date well instead of waiting until we are married to conclude on important issues like the above.

Dating preparation is not about deciding how God will bring somone into our lives. (In fact He uses many ways and means of bringing two people together, whether that is through active dating or prayerful waiting). It is about placing a higher value on marriage and its requirments.

If you hope to be married one day, you have the wonderful opportunity to work out with the Lord how He wants to prepare you. Doing that now, is better than waiting to you are almost married or married before working out what it will take to build a lasting union.

The more aware you become of your values, needs goals and calling, the more time you spend on developing your communication and problem solving skills, and the more whole and satisfed you become inside, the better prepared you will be when the right person comes along.

Ask yourself these questions honestly:

Are you becoming the type of person you hope to meet?

Do you do moan and complain about not meeting someone yet, or are you expectantly waiting in hope and working out what you need to do to be ready?

Is God your first love or are you hoping to meet someone to fill the void?

Welcome

An educational resource for women of faith preparing for dating and marriage relationships and those recovering from a break up or divorce

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How Will I Know?

What Must I Do to Be Ready?

Our choices in dating are not made in the moment, they are product of who we have become up until that moment!

What are your values in life?
Do the men you date value the same things as you do?
Have you noticed unhealthy behaviours in your relating?
What needs to change?
Are you having your needs for love, significance and acceptance met outside a romantic relationship or are you looking for a man to give you what is missing inside?
Do you feel fulfilled in life?
What is your gifts and calling?
Do you have a good attitude towards men or do you believe men are all the same and can't be trusted?
Do you value yourself as Christ does or do you question your worth?

These are just a few of the types of questions to ask yourself in theseason of preparation !

You can also

Read a chapter from He Loves Me Not?

Attend a Dating Preparation Workshop - Latest Events

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